The Cavalry Ain’t Coming.

Chris Gardner and Will Smith

“The cavalry ain’t coming. You’ve got to do this yourself.”                                                                – Christopher Gardner

Christopher Paul Gardner (born February 9, 1954) is an American businessman and motivational speaker. During the early 1980s, Gardner struggled with homelessness while raising a toddler son. He became a stockbroker and eventually founded his own brokerage firm Gardner Rich & Co in 1987. In 2006, Gardner sold his minority stake in the firm and published a memoir. That book was made into the motion picture The Pursuit of Happyness starring Will Smith. ~Wikipedia

Back in the late 90’s a co-worker of mine and I were collaborating on a project that was proving extremely difficult for us to complete. We toiled into the wee hours of the morning to complete the presentation that was to kick off a marketing campaign for the sales team we managed the next day. We were frustrated and exhausted. And our patience was wearing thin. But it was mostly me. After I expressed my frustration, most likely with one or two expletives, he looked at me and said …

“Ya know, at the end of the day, the cavalry ain’t coming over the hill.”

I still remember Carey saying that to this day, and I recall repeating his quote to myself at different turning points in my life. Just in different ways. At the time we laughed at it, and for the rest of the time we worked together we would use it in pretty much any stressful work situation we found ourselves in. I like Chris Gardner’s quote too, which is why I chose it to headline this post. Just a different way of saying what I feel is appropriate for these pandemic times we find ourselves in.



The Serenity Prayer image seen here[2] is another way of saying the same thing. At least I think so. In these trying pandemic times, we all have to find a way to get through this, but it’s up to us to do so. The Serenity prayer that is quoted here is probably the most common version of several versions with the original attributed to Reinhold Niebuhr.[3] 

In these unprecedented coronavirus times, having the serenity to accept the things we cannot change while having the courage to change the things we can and having the wisdom to know the difference is sage advice. Not only in these times, but with life in general.


In Canada, we are so very fortunate we have a government that is responding to the pandemic crisis in the way that it is. They are giving assistance in so many ways to our citizens who need it most. The Chief Public Health Officer of Canada, Dr. Theresa Tam has played a major leadership role in the current COVID-19 crisis and is doing exemplary work in providing guidance to Canada in these trying pandemic times.


Here in BC, we have our own Provincial Health Officer who has surfaced as an unintentional hero, Dr. Bonnie Henry. Dr. henry who has provided BC with … “daily media briefings that are a master class in crisis communication – clear, factual and surprisingly intimate.”[5] Dr. Henry has become well known and is affectionately referred to here in BC as Dr. Bonnie and her daily COVID-19 briefings at 3 PM have become must-see television along with BC Minister of Health NDP MLA Hon Adrian Dix.

Although politicians can often have a bad rap, it’s often based as a matter of public opinion. Adrian Dix has also surfaced as a calming voice who shows humility and compassion in his delivery of what has to be devastating news to any family, loved one or caregiver of someone who may have contracted or succumbed to the devastating effects of the coronavirus.


Yesterday morning, Brenda forwarded an article to me through email. After reading it, I developed a new appreciation for being Canadian and for the way our government is stepping aside to let scientists and doctors like Theresa Tam and Dr. Bonnie take centre stage and guide us Canadians through these turbulent times …

I so agree with the subtitle of the article above. Donald Trump is now using Melania’s birthday as a campaign push to collect names, zip codes, emails and mobile numbers during this coronavirus crisis. Talk about ulterior motives. He puts himself centre stage in feeble attempts to take credit where it is not deserved. He touts an anti-malaria drug as a “very positive effect, or a positive effect, maybe not very, but maybe positive.”[6] During a press conference he turns to the scientists in the room and asks if they were to hit the body with a tremendous light, ultraviolet or otherwise and bring it inside the body through the skin or some other way, and that perhaps they can do something like use a disinfectant inside the body by injection inside or almost a cleaning because it kills the virus in a minute. Ummm, right.

So after the light and disinfectant comments, the New York City Department of Health and Mental Hygiene apparently received 30 calls in the 18 hours following Trump’s comments, and hundreds of calls were received by the emergency hotlines in New York, Michigan, Illinois, and Maryland. One day later, a White House spokesperson blames the media for taking Trump’s remarks out of context? Right, he was just being sarcastic … in a public briefing during a national pandemic health crisis.

All this from someone who self declares that his two greatest assets are his mental stability and “being, like, really smart.”[7]  Right.

It’s like trying to follow a three ring circus with the clown as the ringmaster. It’s all so very sad.


When you compare the stark contrast to the way our Canadian government is handling the pandemic compared to our neighbours in the US, it numbs the mind and gives me a new appreciation for being Canadian and living where we live. Our government and health officials are giving us clear, concise information as it becomes available. The Canadian government doesn’t blatantly try and use this pandemic to further their own personal agendas. I have never been so proud to be Canadian, yet so heavy hearted for our many American friends.



  1. Christopher Gardner/Will Smith image @ Getty Images
  2. Serenity Prayer – Corinne @ Hungry Happy Home 
  3. Who Wrote the Serenity Prayer? – Shapiro, Fred R. (April 28, 2014).
  4. B.C. Provincial Health Officer Dr. Bonnie Henry, centre, responds to questions during a news conference in Vancouver, on March 6, 2020. –  DARRYL DYCK/The Canadian Press

  5. Opinion: The Globe and MailBonnie Henry is a calming voice in a sea of coronavirus madness
  6. USA Today – Elizabeth Weise and Ken Alltucker (March 21, 2020)
  7. Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump)  – January 6, 2018


15 thoughts on “The Cavalry Ain’t Coming.

  1. 3bones, am I seeing correctly that even after our exchange yesterday about the relative merits of the approaches to virus control & your seeming acceptance of my analysis you continue the same chauvinist equation? The EU is basically left of center like Canada but is doing a much worse job than the US at containment. Comparing Canada to the US, as much as I love Canada, is to compare apples & oranges. Yes, Trump is an idiot but there is plenty of blame to go around between the private sector ppe producers & the medical establishment’s negligence in its lack of preparedness for a pandemic.

    • Hi spearman … my intent certainly was not to appear a chauvinist in any way, shape, or form. You are correct in your detailed analysis from yesterday, and in retrospect, it appeared that I was acting the part of an objective journalist, and for that, I apologize. I was really trying to convey a subjective personal perspective based on my feelings on how the situation has been handled here by our government in Canada vs the government in the US. I should have left Trump out of it. If I was truly playing the part of an objective journalist, I would have compared Canada to the US and the EU like you did in our exchange yesterday. My apologies.

      In all fairness to you and to quote your conclusion in yesterday’s exchange … “IOW, the EU is doing a worse job than the US response to Covid. Of course, when all is said & done the US death toll may equal or surpass Europe’s deaths because Europe’s Covid crisis started a month or so earlier than the US.” And as you also pointed out yesterday, pandemic starting times and demographic differences should be worked into any equation in order to create the proper perspective.

      I should have ended the post with this change … When you compare the stark contrast to the way “the” Canadian government is handling the pandemic compared to “the government of” the US, it numbs the mind and gives me a new appreciation for being Canadian and living where we live. Apologies.

      To quote what were my final words of our exchange yesterday … “it’s uncharted territory for all of us, and I suppose that time will tell when all is said and done.” Any time for reflection and any accountability that becomes necessary should be when we get through the pandemic and collectively learn from our geographic response experiences in order to chart a better future for all of us.

      Thanks for the pushback.

  2. It does seem like the Canadian government is one of the very few who are dealing with this crisis gracefully. You are very fortunate indeed. I don’t think we can even begin to compare it with the situation, I’m sorry, I mean circus, in the US. And I’m not really biased since I’m from Romania, where one day it may seem like the officials are doing a semi-decent job with handling this, but then the next day, they don’t. There’s a lot of misinformation here sadly, A LOT, and ignorance and lack of responsibility and it seems that now, more than ever before, all the buffoons of the country are on TV, instead of scientists, epidemiologists or actual experts on the issue.

    So congrats for how Canadian authorities are dealing with this and thanks for sharing that beautiful quote – I loved “Pursuit of Happyness”!

  3. Enjoyed reading this post.
    My family lives in Canada, and I have two sons attended university there. All in montréal. I agree with you, proud Canadian here.

    • Thanks, Sawsan … we love Montreal and Quebec City. The very sad part here is that the provinces of Quebec and Ontario are suffering the most through this pandemic. They are starting to flatten the curve, but between the two provinces they have 80% of the positive identified cases here in Canada. The long term care homes are suffering the most. Hope you and your family are able to be safe and well …

  4. 3bones~ I totally concur. Much like the 7th cavalry, it fell far short of its purpose. The old adage of, ‘If you want something done right, do it yourself’… this is so finely penned!

    • I came to realize that about myself early in my life, but I sometimes still do take it to the extreme and try and do it all. Something my wife has been trying to break me of for many years now! I tend to prescribe more to the theory of DIRTFT now, and I wish more would do the same! I very much appreciate your comment, Lance. Thank you …

    • Thank you for the comment, Karima, and I definitely agree that The Serenity Prayer has more validity in these turbulent coronavirus times. Hopefully you are able to be safe and well, and I look forward to exploring more of your blog soon.

  5. 3bones, This is a magnificent post! The Serenity Prayer has always been a favorite. Comments on Trump are, sadly, accurate. He is a destructive pied piper, who has many people under his malignant spell…not enough, I hope, to win reelection. Stay safe and happy! Cheryl

    • Thanks, Cheryl. It is such a sad state with all that is happening with Trump in the US. Most Canadians are also hopeful that your coming November election yields a different result and finally removes Trump from office so the American people can get their lives back on track once again. Believe me, we are also hopeful along with what we hope is the majority of our American friends, that he will be nothing but a sad and bygone note in US history. Take care, good fortune to you, and thanks for your comment …

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