Arguably, these may be the three important words to say to a newly diagnosed cancer patient. I am sure that this would be questioned by many, but for me, these are my three most important words to Brenda as we face what is to be. We had our “big day” this past Thursday that I alluded to in my last post, and we are both able to tell you that it was a relief to get that point in our journey where we can now refer to it as “what has been.”
You’re not alone. The theme for today’s blog and my trademark quote as the theme and the message come from the second verse of a song. Quotations can come from many different places, and quotations speak to each of us in an individual way. It’s interesting when you do research on a quote, and much of the research that is done these days is on the internet as we all know. Many of the versions of the quotes that come up on Google have slight variations in their wording. The connotations and the interpretation can seem the same, but the addition or deletion of a single word can also dramatically change the meaning. Today’s quote, these three little words, come from a song that I ran across recently from Rascal Flatts. I am not a huge country music fan by any means, although there are some genre’s of country and some country artists that I really do enjoy.
On Thursday, our appointment with Brenda’s surgeon was interesting to say the least. At one point near the middle of the appointment, we looked at each other as he left the room and I whispered to her as to ask her she thought of him. Brenda whispered back that she thought he was too casual, but I liked that about him. He was definitely casual, but he was also showing a side that was caring and yet professional, and to me that spoke volumes and as we went through our list of questions that we had prepared the night before. The casual, yet caring and professional style in which he answered our questions gave us the proper information from the surgeon, and the cancer information packet we received from him at the conclusion of the appointment has also helped answer many of our questions and alleviate some of our fears. We now knew what we were facing, and he prepared us for the next big step in the journey so we could now face the next milestone with Brenda’s surgery scheduled for December 2nd. There will be new dates and new milestones to face after the surgery, but we will take all of this one day at a time. Together.
I saw an interesting analogy the other day, when I was Googling and I read a post from somebody else that had received the same diagnosis on breast cancer themselves. I have lost the URL now, it is somewhere in the maze of information and lost links that began when I was first doing my research and searching for answers to all of this. I tried to identify with what this other brave woman was saying and wanted to share. She felt like she was laying at the bottom of a swimming pool, with her family and friends standing at the pools edge and yelling and gesturing down to her as to what she needed to do and what she needed to read and what they wanted to do to help her. Obviously none of this was getting through to her, as the pool was effectively filtering all of the information, both aurally and visually so that she could see and hear that there was something going on and that people were trying to help her, but the messages were not getting through. I thought that Brenda must be feeling exactly like that, and that I may have been one of those family members who was standing at the pool’s edge. It became apparent to me that the best thing to do here was to lay at the bottom of the pool with Brenda so that I could help her filter what we were seeing and hearing, and we could then deal with and face the next steps in this journey. It was the best place for me to be, down there with her. It’s where we belong together, that way she’s not alone.
My quote for this entry is the second verse from a song . I’m going to check out more on this group now and see about adding some of the music of Rascal Flatts to my collection. I hope you all enjoy. Feel free to click the link or paste it into your browser from below.
“You think you’re lost. But you’re not lost on your own. You’re not alone.” ~ Rascal Flats
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There. We are at the bottom of the pool, feel free to join us if you like. As always, take care …